I've been in turmoil. Lots of it. Regarding having children. Or doing foster care. Or adopting. I've been assurred by a LOT of people that in the future, when I look at those children, all of "this" will be so worth it.
They are so sure.
If the day comes when I am looking at my children - be they biological or not - I am sure that all of "this" will, in fact, be worth it. I am sure that in their eyes, I will see more than enough hope to balance the despair that is part of this journey. I am sure that in my heart will be more love than I can currently imagine. I am sure the joy in their laughter will override the sorrow we live with now.
But. What if the day doesn't come? What if we don't ever have children? What if, because of this flawed, imperfect world we live in, something happenes to or in my body that eliminates my ability to bear children? What if something happens to Derek that eliminates his ability to father them? What if we never have the financial resources for IVF or adoption? If that happens... will this all be worth it? Does the pain and uncertainty of not trying outweigh the pain of trying and failing? If not, then this is not worth it.
People are so certain that we'll succeed. They're totally convinced that we've misinterperated our situation, that things aren't bleak, that we'll have a "miracle" baby when we least expect it. But what if they're wrong? I'm not so convinced. I don't like admitting that. And maybe right now, my view is being tainted by the reappearance of much pain and surgery looming in the near future. But. If they are wrong, and we do not have kids... is it still worth it to try?
Thursday, October 30, 2008
Worth It?
Wednesday, October 29, 2008
MckMama gives birth to one small MckMuffin.
So MckMama... is currently witnessing direct, physical manifestation of the miracle working power of our God. Our Holy, Mighty, Infinate God. To briefly summarize - many weeks ago, MckMama and Prince Charming were told their unborn son would die. Not in the distant future, but then. Within a day or two, definately not long at all. Because his heart was not working correctly. It was enlarged. The rhythm was wrong. Too fast. Not responsive enough. Lots of issues. He had hydrops, which means that either because of or in addition to the heart problems, there was fluid around his organs. This little one was fondly nicknamed MckMuffin. For the sake of those praying, his name was shared. Stellan. A lot of people have been praying for baby Stellan. Stellan didn't die. Stellan lived. The hydrops diminished. Disappeared. The heart seemed to not be doing well. MckMama was put on lots of medication. This medication made MckMama sick. May or may not have made Stellan live. Not long ago, MckMama's doctors made the difficult decision to take her (and baby Stellan) off the medication, as it was a danger to her health. Doctors were not sure if Stellan could handle the removal of this medication. He did.
Today, Stellan made his grand entrance. And grand it is. He's having some pretty minor issues, that are being observed. But over all, he is an amazing, beautiful, breathing, miracle. And he is living. Living. Doctors said dying. Predicted death. And yet, he lives. Join me in praising God for this miracle. And thanking God for a beautiful, living, breathing miracle. Named Stellan.
Tuesday, October 21, 2008
Not Me Monday - 5th Edition
- I did not miss the fact that yesterday was monday. And forget to do my not me monday post because of it. Nope.
- I did not sleep from 7:30 PM last night until 12:30 PM today. Because I would never let myself push until I was that tired and drained. Never. That's not healthy, you know.
- I am not struggling for items for this post. My life is totally entertaining and I certainly do not lack interesting tidbits to share with the world.
Monday, October 13, 2008
Not Me Monday - 4th Edition
Wednesday, October 8, 2008
Today. Two sides.
Today. Lots of good things will happen today.
We'll find a better mask for my husband to wear (not the dress up kind). One that will enable him to keep breathing at night. And at the same time, will prevent the infection on the bridge of his nose from getting any deeper or larger.
We will also (and this is the really good thing) go to church. At church, we will join with a bunch of other believers. We will worship our God. We will sing. We will pray. We will raise our hands. Maybe get on our knees. After that, we will hear the Word of God. We have a Pastor. A good Pastor. Who will set for the Word of God. He will do it in a manner that makes it clear and easy to understand. In a manner untainted by opinion or puplar culture. By the time we leave, we will have heard, understood, and been shown how to apply it to our lives. A blessing.
That is the first side of today.
The second side? The second side is where I am depending on God to carry me through. To give me the strength to continue to stand.
This morning when I woke, I felt... ill. Like puking. Dizzy. Achy. Painful stomach. The part of all that that is disturbing? This has been happening with increasing frequency. My faith is there. I believe I have been healed. He paid the price already. There is nothing more He needs to do. It's already been done. And here I am. I'm not saying "This is all my fault." But neither would I ever say "God is doing this" or "God is not healing me." The truth is... my faith could be stronger. I could be a "better" Christian. But. I cannot say with absolute certainty that if my faith was stronger than anybody else's on this planet, and if I were the PERFECT christian, I would not have this struggle. I have to say this: Life, is life. For everyone. None of us immune to struggle or temptation or trial. None of us able to completely circumvent all hardship. In light of this...
We will be scheduling surgery soon. They will once again remove endometriosis from my various and assorted internal organs. And after that? I will be trialing a new medication. One which will slow the growth of endometriosis. So that it does not come back right away. And then? I am depending on what God has done for me. I am depending on the healing that He has said is mine. In His Word. I have to cling to that. I have no alternative. And I know that what He says, He means. And what He says and means, is true. As to how this mixes with the fact that I, less than 24 hours ago, took medication to mask the symptoms of this disease.